I'm Valerie
MS, Board Certified Coach
APSATS Trainee/Certified Partner Coach-Candidate
I’m Valerie Keith, a betrayal trauma coach dedicated to helping women find clarity, safety, and strength after the impact of a spouse’s pornography use, sexual secrets, or infidelity. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, disoriented, or unsure how to move forward, you’re in the right place. Your reactions make sense, and you deserve support that understands the depth of what you’re carrying.
My work is grounded in trauma-informed, specialized training, as well as years of personal and professional experience supporting women whose lives have been shaken by broken trust. I understand how deeply these experiences affect your identity, your sense of safety, your spirituality, and your ability to function day to day.
Before becoming a coach, I navigated my own season of betrayal and learned firsthand how stabilizing, compassionate support can help you rebuild from the inside out. Through therapy, coaching, education, and community, I found tools that helped me regulate my emotions, reconnect to my intuition, hold boundaries that protected my well-being, and slowly piece myself back together in a way that felt genuine and empowering. Those same tools now shape the way I support my clients.
My approach is gentle, validating, and faith-aware—rooted in the belief that healing happens one steady, supported step at a time. I offer a safe space to process your experience, understand what’s happening in your relationship, and explore choices that honor your emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being.
Wherever you are right now, there is a next step. And you don’t have to navigate this alone. I would be honored to walk with you as you move from survival toward clarity, strength, and peace.
Practical Skills to Bring Your Nervous System Out of Survival Mode
You’ll learn tools that help you regulate emotions, reduce hypervigilance, and move through triggers with more stability. These aren’t abstract concepts—they’re skills you can start using immediately.
Support Rooted in Trauma-Informed, Faith-Aware Care
I understand the cultural, relational, and spiritual layers that make betrayal especially complex for many women. You’ll receive support that honors your personal values and your lived reality with no judgment for what that looks like for you right now.
Boundaries That Protect Your Heart (Not Punish Your Spouse)
Together we’ll explore what safety looks like for you and build boundaries that support your well-being, reduce chaos, and help you feel more grounded—regardless of what your spouse chooses.
A Guide, Not a Guru
I won’t tell you what to think, choose, or feel. My role is to walk with you, help you listen to yourself again, and support you as you make choices that align with your values, your needs, and your healing.
A Path That Leads Toward Hope
Wherever you are—raw, numb, angry, or unsure—healing is possible. Over time you’ll gain clarity, confidence, and a sense of yourself again. And you’ll do it with someone in your corner who understands the journey.
What to Expect when Working with Me
A Calm, Non-Judgmental Space
Betrayal trauma can feel chaotic, overwhelming, and isolating. When we meet, you’ll enter a calm, steady environment where your feelings, fears, and questions are safe and respected. You won’t be rushed, minimized, or told what you “should” do.
Validation Without Pressure
Your reactions make sense. Your story matters. I’ll help you understand what’s happening to your body, brain, and emotions without pushing you toward decisions you’re not ready to make. You set the pace.
Clear Information That Makes Sense of What You’re Experiencing
We’ll explore the effects of betrayal trauma, patterns in your relationship, and the behaviors you’re seeing from your spouse—so you can finally understand why everything feels so confusing. Knowledge brings grounding, and grounding brings relief.